It has come to my attention that there are certain rules for when a guy and girl are on the verge of starting to date (the stage where they're still flirting and figuring out if they like each other):
1. Guys don't like to be chased. As I know from previous experience I am a rubbish chaser and royally cocked up the situation with Prince (pun was not intended, but let's appreciate how punderful that was :o) when I asked him out, he saw the message and he didn't reply. Moving swiftly on...!
2. Girls still have to play hard-to-get right up until the first declaration of feelings or the first date. I find this hard. My idea of being coy is giving a boy a wink. In my head. I would never risk winking in real life because when I do I look like I have a twitch. Not exactly attractive.
3. There is such a thing as Too Much Texting.
These 3 rules have become clear to me with this Thing (I'm not sure how to define it) with Curly Haired Guy. We're not dating, we've kissed a few times and he says he likes me but...I've broken all the rules. I've chased him and even Double Texted (sending a message, then sending another one. Oh the cringiness that is my life...!) and I haven't been playing hard to get. I'm just no good at the Cat and Mouse Game of the beginning of the relationship.
However, all of this is about to change!
I suppose the Wake-up Call was where I realised that I had Double Texted and then I considered ringing Curly Haired Guy because he had not replied to my texts...20 minutes after I had sent them.
Basically, I'm playing the Cat and Mouse game but the wrong way around - I shouldn't be doing the chasing!
As most of you know, I am generally a feminist on most points but on this I am afraid that I am the anti-feminist (the Barbie, if you will). The guy has to chase the girl, because if he's not chasing you then He's Just Not That Into You (as I learned from My Bible - the amazing book).
And I've been chasing Curly Haired Guy, which is SO NEW FOR ME. Argh. The solution to this problem is that I shall play the Cat and Mouse game and I shall not text him until he has replied to my
Sigh. Why is life so bloody complex? Oh well, other than being a bit Over The Top I have not cocked up the Curly Haired Guy situation...yet.
Keep you posted,